Overcome the dragon in your life

When coaching individuals about living life with purpose and passion the topic of fear commonly comes up. Fear in simple terms is the lack of knowing. It is the brain running programs or beliefs that stop your advance as aggressively as a solid concrete wall.

This false emotion appearing real is a fantasy played out in our minds, in fact most fear is simply a lesson waiting to be learned.

There is an ancient story about a small village that had a dragon living in the mote. Every night the dragon came out to find food to eat. At first the dragon would get in the garbage for food and make a small mess to clean up. But in time the dragon was growing and its appetite was also growing.

It started to get in the merchants food that was to be sold at the market. The dragon got so persistent that it started to even steal food when people were yelling at it.

Well the village finally got fed up and decided to lock the dragon out over night but found that this simply made the dragon become more persistent tearing down houses and granaries for food.

The villagers did not feel they should kill the dragon so it was decided to start feeding the dragon at the edge of the village. This solution at first seemed to work very well but in time the dragon needed more food that the little village could provide.

In desperation the village set a trap to kill the dragon knowing if they failed the dragon would surly kill them all. As the village sat in fear and desperation waiting for the dragon to come eat so they could release the trap and end the siege the dragon had on the village.

With a loud bang the trap was released and the dragon fell with a powerful thud. And the village yelled with joy. The village was so happy that it had a party the next day celebrating its freedom. The village had a feast that lasted all day long and as the sun set darkness overtook the village as the mother of the younger dragon showed up.

This ancient story is one that lies in the heart of all of us. It is the fear that dwells in us that if we kill the dragon the mother of the dragon will show up. If you use brutal force to kill your fear then the fear will come back as a larger new lesson to learn. But those that look at the dragon as a lesson to learn, and not allow the dragon to maintain overwhelming devastation in their life they will ultimately conquer their fear.

Let me give you an example.

A client of mine had a large addiction towards Doritos corn chips and could eat several bags a day. She would even crumble the chips up in her hand so she could get more chips in her mouth at one time.

After I shared with her the same dragon story I said lets feed the dragon and become friends enough to ask the dragon to leave us as a trusted friend.

She started this process by asking her self every time she ate a chip why am I eating this chip, or how does eating this chip serve me. She was feeding the dragon and the dragon had eaten her out of house and home. But finally she wanted to take a look at the mystery of her dragon

After a few days and 100’s of chips she got a glimmer of her dragon.

She had gone through a devastating divorce and lost custody of her children in the divorce. She did not really understand how or why the whole thing took place and had been in mourning for the loss for over two years.

But that did not explain the dragon, and how to finally learn the lesson of letting go of the pain of the past. Well as she looked deeply in the dragons eyes she saw a part of herself that wanted to get her family back – including her x-husband.

But at a conscious level she knew that she did not have any feeling that she would ever in a million years want her husband back. But the dragon that lived below conscious was reliving times that seemed safe by eating Doritos.

As time went by she totally lost her craving for the chip and took her lesson in stride. The dragon is a friend or foe; it is the teacher or the punisher. When you look fear in the eye and take on the lesson by feeding the dragon, you become the master of that fear waiting to grow into your total experience of life.

You Life Strategist

Jeff Allen

Live To Your Potential And Prosper

Economic fears got you in a Fight, Flight, or Freeze position?

As I was sitting in my office today a past client and dear friend came by. She came from across the country to do some business in town and felt she just needed to stop by to say hi.

Let me give you a little back ground on this wonderful woman. She is a power house in the world of media. She came with a word of encouragement and perseverance because of the national financial position we have found ourselves in.

She was talking about how the next 5 years the price of oil would become outrageous and jobs would become almost nonexistent. But her message was not doom and gloom it was one of positive change. (Boy did she take on her life strategy training)

In fact with her constant high energy, she was consistently giving ways to look at life through in a positive way. She was not falling into a free fall of despair of not knowing what is going to take place in the future.

She commented that her company was struggling to make pay role and keep people encouraged. She said that the United States might become an agriculture based economy for survival in the near future.

And again “what you see is what you get” if you see the future as an economic tragedy and that Mad Max is ready to shoot you for your food you are in fear. You are living a life in fight, flight, or freeze.

But on the other hand if you are motivating yourself and others to become the best that everyone can be. You will never go without a strong network of support; and you will find yourself at the top of the heap after this storm blows over.

Yes this storm will simply blow over, the sun will come out and the birds will sing. The truth is no one knows how long the storm will last, or how much erosion will take place during the storm.

But those that meet the storm mentally and emotionally prepared will find themselves emerging out of the mist with a stronger conviction of who they are. More importantly – those that engage by intending to be prosperous during the storm with like minded people will come out with a new social and financial strength needed for a life filled with success.

Live to your potential, and you will prosper. Live to your fear, and you will fail.

Your Life Strategist

Jeff Allen

Overcoming Fear

Fear is one of the world’s greatest emotions to deal with. It is also one of the hardest to overcome. Fear is a tool that can keep us safe but also an emotion that can hold us back from success or happiness. Fear is commonly that emotion that causes us not to speak up or be heard, to not respond in a time of need, and more importantly to not take action on something that would ultimately benefit us.

I have been coaching people my whole life at one level or another and when I started helping people for an income my life started taking on a whole new meaning. I really started to see the inner workings of humanity. Those inner quirks that don’t seem to make sense at a conscious level but are still playing out in a way that are creating consistent challenging outcomes.

When fear is the dominate motivator the emotion of love or real passion can never run the show. And the feeling of passion is so powerful, like you love football, you love good music, or you love your children.

When passion is involved, as seen in loving something or someone, fear is very rarely present. In fact fear is the absence of love. When passion takes over the fear leaves.

The process of overcoming fear is an interesting one because it takes a strong desire to take a look at the real you. The real person on the inside to determine what you are truly passionate about.

Let me give you an example; I have coached people that were looking for work and they felt fear of the possible rejection, fear of the interview and fear to simple ask if a company is hiring.

But if you were to ask that same person to plan a trip to Las Vegas for a family of four and they would get the trip for free – as you can see the passion would come up and no fear would be present. They would start the research and compare the prices, book the flights, rooms, and entertainment.

If you used the same energy of passion or love to get the job it would go quite well. You would be able to talk to a lot of individuals in a short amount of time; your data base of people that knew you were looking for a job would grow quickly.

You would interview with excitement and in a short amount of time find the perfect job.

Those that ask the most always get the most and when you are asking with passion you always get what you ask for. Not only does the listener hear you better but you will be willing to ask more often.

Those that ask out of fear will be rejected and shunned, causing them to shrink to a greater depth of fear.

What you see is what you get and those that look with passion always get love in return and those that look with fear get more in return.

Overcoming fear is a process of knowing who you are and applying that into a life strategy that fit who you are like a glove.

Your Life Strategist

Jeff D. Allen